I'd have to agree that this might be your best bet at least starting out and a good choice period. I'd consider this more of a back-up gun cause I like bigger calibers for SD but that's just me. My favorite to shoot is probably the 44 special, big hole, bullet weight, not bad in recoil. You might want to stay away from the lightweight J frames, nice to carry but she might not like the recoil of even a 38. Go with a steel frame model.mightyjoeyoung said:Revolver... .38 caliber, hammerless...pull the trigger goes bang. A set of crimson trace laser grips would be a goos addition too. Smith & Wesson makes quite a few models in a range of weights with "trace" grips.