well I was more referring to a lighting rod approach ,27 years ,she can have the house .kids are raised but still in collage so I have to get them through that .I know what still having the room you grew up in means so I will not destroy that /. I love my kids ...
Been thru two. Try to work out as much as you can out of court. Don't be afraid to give a little unless they are too stubborn to budge. Get it over with and move on with your life. If you have kids together, you are still going to be in each others life till the day you die.
Good luck, can't give you any personal advice since I still have the same wife for 39 years now. I tease her and tell her friends only reason we're still together is "it's cheaper to keep her"
Advice I can offer from watching my parents and friends go down that road is do it with class. So many were total buttheads about it and made everybody they came into contact with uncomfortable for not choosing sides. I lost 2 people that were close friends and hunting buddies because my wife still invited their exes over to our house. The ones who got along better were the ones that put it behind them and moved on, the ones who suffered most made it their job to tell the world how the b###@ ruined their life.
Sounds like you have a plan that will work for you. Good Luck and I worked with a guy who divorced his wife of 20 years, were divorced 8 years, and remarried. I'm not that forgiving
My ability to remember lyrics from songs of the 60's far exceed my ability to remember why I walked into the kitchen
has anyone one gone through a divorce that can offer some advice?
Never get remarried.
Fall in love with yourself.
Do what you want when you want.
Don't bring anyone to the house so if you come home from work you don't have someone wondering where the heck ya been, why ya didn't answer your phone n ask how long ya been gone?!
Oh... And make it fast n painless as possible. Remember that everything is replaceable.
I walked away with my clothes, my dogs n my car n started over. I still see that jerk on a weekly basis. Heck, I even walk in his house n say... Honey, I'm home! Just to watch him cringe!