Re: Handgun for women
Take her to a gun shop with a good selection of handguns and let her handle them to find one that fits her comfortably. You do need to think about recoil because she will not want to practice or shoot a gun that she is half afraid of. Also don't consider the one you buy to be the one she will carry forever. After she becomes comfortable and competent, she may want to move up.
When you are up to your butt in alligators, it is hard to remember your intent was to drain the swamp. Stay focused!