I usually vote with my wallet.
I first bought a Taurus 85.
A little while later, purchased a S&W 642 Airweight. That little Smith is a noraml companion of mine nowadays.
Nothing really wrong with the Taurus. The S&W is more accurate, finished nicer, and the action is way smoother. I still own the Taurus, I find uses for both, I just feel the Smith is nicer, and hence better in my mind.
I had a Taurus 85 that had a hammer. It was a good gun, but I like the j frame S&W revolvers better. I had a 442 & upgraded to a M&P340. 38+p or 357 mag rounds are manageable, but your palm will feel it the next day.
The Smith & Wesson J-frames are the best.
I like the 442 personally. When they came oout about 15-20 years ago I got one (alloy frame) carried ever since. Two family members, both experienced shooter, liked mine and now it is their primary carry guns.
P+ is really no problem, just don't have any need in a 38 ad defense shots will be at 10 feet or less, and the standard 38 wad cutter is devestating at that range.
Any 2 inch snub nose is terrible to shoot (but excellent as a CCW). It takes a lot of effort to learn how to shoot them with any accuracy...especially the light weight DAO (double action Only) hammerless models.